"Do you have a second?"

2/09/2012 11:30:00 AM
I've found that when people ask, "Do you have a second?" they often times would like more of my time than just a second.

I wish they'd just call it what it really is.

"Do you have an extra 20-40 minutes to listen to me shoot the breeze while I stand in your office doorway and talk to the side of your head as you continue to type in an attempt to indicate to me through non-verbal communication that you really don't have time to chat with me about the state of the economy?"

Because seriously?

I'm still working.
Not looking at the person.
Not making eye contact.
Not even offering reassuring vocal cues to indicate that I'm listening.

Is the person deterred?

Absolutely not. The talking continues.



  1. When people usually ask me that, it is a panhandler that has a sob story to tell me so I will feel sorry enough to give them a hand out. UGH.

  2. I HATE THIS. It's the number-one reason why I'm less productive at the office than when I work from home. They would never bug me with that stuff if we weren't in the same physical space.


  3. Why, why, why do people insist on doing this? How do they not get the cues? There have been times where I've been so frustrated that I've gotten up in the middle of a one-way conversation and gone to the bathroom to make it stop. Try it... It works... almost always. Although once or twice I've been followed into the bathroom to continue the conversation. I don't even want to talk about how messed up that is!

  4. UGH! I gots a couple of those people in the office. Annoying.

    Get a clue people, if I was interested in what you had to say I would acknowledge you.

    Don't you wish you could have like a broom or cane and when people come into your space that you don't want you can just shew them away with your shewing object of choice and yell "SCRAM". I wish I could do that.

  5. I mean, when someone says "do you have a second," it's obviously going to take more than that... what can you actually say in A second? Nothing.

    I really hate it when someone does this, and then EVERYTHING that comes out of his/her mouth is negativity and complaining. So, I don't want to waste my time and energy listening to you, much less waste even MORE energy consoling you about whatever petty thing you're upset about. (Can you tell I have someone like this in my office?)

  6. Good point. I may be guilty of this at times but I like to think it is work related. I should say, "Do you have time to discuss, X..." then see what the answer is, then proceed appropriately.

    The worst is when you are eating your lunch at your desk. DO NOT TALK TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING RIGHT NOW! I hate this.


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