on grief: Joan & Shirley

I am looking forward to reading Melissa Rivers' book about her Mom, Joan Rivers. I pre-ordered it.

I miss Joan, I really do. Her death was weirdly shocking for me. Obviously, it was a surprise (like someone else's.), but more importantly I saw Joan's relationship with her daughter, Melissa, on TV. Crazy or not, you know those two loved one another. Immensely. Maybe even the way I love(d) Shirley.

After Joan's death, the first thought I had was for Melissa. Why? Because of the road that she was being forced down. Because of the club she just unwillingly became a member of. I could feel so acutely what was ahead for Melissa. The loss. The sadness. The grief. The despair. Oh man... And grieving publicly? That can't be easy.

I haven't been able to watch more than one episode of Fashion Police since her untimely passing. Joan was an icon. She was so strong. So fiercely independent, sure - but that woman's resilience is nothing if not inspiring. (Just like my Mom's.)

I think it will be lovely to read the stories that Melissa is willing to share about her Mom.

As I've learned, there is therapy and healing in saying your Mom's name after she's gone.

I hope that writing this book has helped Melissa. I know that writing these posts has brought me more healing that I could ever describe.

Writing is good.

Sigh.

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Speaking of saying her name, I posted this picture of Spiderman on Instagram last night. It made me smile.

Vivienne is never without her baby. (She's a bitty baby hand-me-down from her cousin, Clo.)


The caption read:


Ah, grief.

But better yet, ah life.

I will say it again. I love that a Shirley has found her way into our daily life.

We always have room for a Shirley.

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--The Story of Loss. On Losing my Mom.
September 9, 2013  ::  The day I found out ::  Post here.
September 16, 2013  ::  It's One Week today  ::  Post here.
September 25, 2013  :: The Call  ::  Post here.

September 30, 2013  ::  Slivers of Sunlight  ::  Post here.
October 6, 2013  ::  That first week.Those first days :: Post here.
October 14, 2013  ::  14 days after  ::  Post here.
October 20, 2013  ::  I found a treasure  ::  Post here.
November 4, 2013  ::  She's been gone for 4 weeks  :: Post here.
November 13, 2013  ::  I smile and drive and cry and smile and cry  :: Post here.
November 17, 2013  ::  Weekends aren't easy  :: Post here.
November 26, 2013  ::  The holidays, the firsts  ::  Post here.
December 1, 2013  ::  8 weeks  :: Post here.
December 10, 2013  ::  The Dream  :: Post here.
December 19, 2013  ::  Vulnerability and Moving Forward  ::  Post here.
December 22, 2013  ::  The reminders. They're everywhere  ::  Post here.
December 29, 2013  :: 2013  :: Post here.
January 1, 2014  ::  The New Year  :: Post here.
January 7, 2014  ::  2 days from 4 months  ::  Post here.
January 17, 2014  ::  Another Gift ::  Post here.
January 25, 2014  ::  She would have been 60 today  ::  Post here.
February 9, 2014  ::  Five months  ::  Post here.
March 6, 2014  ::  Almost six months  ::  Post here.
March 27, 2014  ::  One of the Best Gifts Ever  ::  Post here.
April 1, 2014  ::  We're all in this together  ::  Post here.
April 24, 2014 :: 7 Months, Easter and Nope, I'm still not normal.  ::  Post here.
May 6, 2014  :: Mother's Day without a Mom  ::  Post here.
June 1, 2014  ::  Moving "forward"  ::  Post here.
July 6, 2014  ::  Denial & acceptance & blah, blah, blah  ::  Post here.
August 20, 2014  ::  So, I'm 35  ::  Post here.
September 2, 2014  ::  7 days  ::  Post here.
September 8, 2014  ::  The Day Before a Year  ::  Post here.
September 9, 2014  ::  Hello, one year  ::  Post here.
October 11, 2014  ::  The brain is funny  ::  Post here.
November 6, 2014  ::  Love  ::  Post here.
November 30, 2014 ::  Post here.
December 4, 2014  ::  Another feather. Post here.
December 28, 2014  :: All was calm, all is bright. Post here.
January 18, 2015  ::  They're always with us? They're always with us. Post here.
January 25, 2015  ::  And today I remember. Post here.
March 8, 2015  ::  A year and a half later. Post here.
April 16, 2015  ::  And here I stand. Post here.


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